Day 130: LOVE. Sharing a quote from BrainyQuote.com that reads, “A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him,” by Brenda Behan. I would argue that the same could be said for a woman.
Isn’t good listening essential for a thriving loving relationship? I am guilty of only half listening sometimes when my husband is talking to me, especially if I am in the middle of something. I guess I should drop everything that I am doing and devote my whole self to listening to the message. My husband and I are both guilty of half listening, I would say. He would say otherwise!
A good partner must also be good at picking up nonverbal cues from their mate. I know that my husband knows something is wrong when I go silent. That usually means that something has pissed me off and I want him to know it! This tactic is NOT the best, because my husband does not always pick up on my “pissy” cues and the longer he is clueless the more I stew and the madder I get. It is like the snowball rolling down the hill, it gets bigger and out of control. I really need to work on my communication skills and voice my anger, instead of staying silent.
In a good loving relationship, there should always be open lines of communication as well as good listening on both sides.
Here are some tips for good listening:
- Face your partner, drop what you are doing and keep good eye contact.
- Keep an open mind.
- Be attentive and relaxed.
- Listen to the words and try to get their meaning.
- Don’t interrupt.
- Ask questions only to ensure understanding.
- Try to feel what your partner is feeling.
- Try to understand what ISN’T said.
- Give regular feedback.
- Don’t interrupt by giving solutions, unless asked to.
Relationships are like a treasured old antique car, they take effort to keep up and must be treated with tender loving care!
What are some other things you feel are necessary to sustain a good and loving relationship?
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